Praise

“In this impassioned book, the author argues that childhood mental illness is real, widespread and painful to families caught in its grip….Frantic parents try everything from biofeedback to acupuncture in hopes of curing children who are mentally ill, self-destructive or violent. Warner argues that many of these children would thrive with meds and cognitive therapy. In these cases, the crime isn’t overmedication—far from it: ‘Most children with mental health issues get no care at all.’ ”
TIME Magazine

“Warner, New York Times columnist and author of the best-selling Perfect Madness: Motherhood in the Age of Anxiety , set out to write a follow-up volume exposing what she believed were capricious diagnoses and medication of children’s mental and learning disorders. Instead, she fell down the rabbit hole to an alternative reality. Although she found the stereotype of pushy parents who shop for prescriptions or educational accommodations to fit their overscheduled children, Warner’s heartbreaking conversations with pediatricians and the parents of children with mental issues such as attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder, autism, serious depression, or bipolar disorders led her to see beyond her prejudices…. Parents, social workers, and educators will find Warner’s compelling study troubling but enlightening. Highly recommended.”
Library Journal (starred review)

“Parents of mentally ill children will find this tonic reassuring, while all parents will find it a valuable reminder that it’s not poor parenting to seek medical help for your children.”
— Kirkus Reviews

“Readers love Judith Warner because she is open, honest, attuned, and curious. In We’ve Got Issues, Warner considers children and psychotherapeutic medicine: whether drug companies hold too much sway, whether doctors overprescribe, but also whether troubled boys and girls might sometimes need more help than they get today. The result is a caring and informed book that will earn the trust and loyalty of a wide audience.”
—Peter D. Kramer, author of Listening to Prozac

“This is an important book, a landmark book, a triumph of honesty over bigotry and of patient learning over the rush to judgment.  I see every day in my office the awful, preventable damage done by zealots and reductionistic ‘thinking.’ Judith Warner rejects the panicky sound bites that have plagued the discussion of children’s mental health for the complexity of truth. She brings to all who read her book the resoundingly good and hopeful news of how much we have learned over the past few decades, how transforming the best help can be, and how all children can turn into responsible, joyful adults.  We owe her a huge debt.”
—Edward Hallowell, M.D., coauthor of Superparenting for ADD and author ofThe Childhood Roots of Adult Happiness

“This is a groundbreaking, thoughtfully argued book. My experience with families in the consulting room supports Judith Warner’s nuanced argument exactly. The myth perpetrated by a breathless news media is false: In reality, parents don’t want to medicate their children. And every one of us has family members and friends (or ourselves!) who could have led richer, less anguished lives had they been given appropriate medication during childhood for chronic learning or emotional problems.”
—Wendy Mogel, author of The Blessing of A Skinned Knee